
So men, we’re going to let y’all in on a big secret: Ladies Talk.
We know, shocking. Glad you were sitting down for that, no?
Now, this can be a great thing for you as a man (”he was great and let me give you all the gory details!”) or a terrible thing (”he was….nice. I guess?”) but either way, it’s happening.
And what do we talk about most? Yes, that is right: chocolate.
But what do we talk about after that? You got it — the art of seduction. Commonly rephrased as “how he could be better at attempting to get lucky.”
From our detailed and exhaustive research on the seduction of men, we’ve figured out that men are fairly straightforward. They have a few obvious areas that they want you to focus on and they prefer a direct approach. Whether you ask them “Can I buy you a drink?” (i.e. the subtle approach) or you just go in for the face-grab, men seem to take heart when obvious is the name of the game.
Ladies….weeeelllll, not so much. We like to not only be wined and dined, but also just plain seduced. We want to be made to feel beautiful, desired, wanted, secure…. and just a little bit dangerous. Simple? No. Easy? Actually — YES. Let us break it down old school.
Things NOT to do:
1. Stand there and do nothing.
2. Be too reserved.
3. Point 1.
4. Be tentative or too shy.
5. Be scarily aggressive if you have only just met her.
6. Use a cheesy line. Or if you do, say it like you mean it and maybe we’ll believe you.
Things TO do:
[Disclaimer -- most of the below will work at *almost* any stage of the relationship. The better you know her, the more you can do with complete confidence. However, if you don't know her, use your judgment on what may or may not be appropriate]
1. The Kiss: As patented by The Pick Up Artist, if you want to kiss her, we recommend touching her hair or touching her face, running your hands along her jaw, and then slowly teasing her and leaning in. If you don’t really know her — then go 80-90% of the way, and let her met you the last 10%. If you do know her and feel confident, then touch her hair/face and gently pull her in. Any lady worth her Lady Card can effectively dodge a kiss she doesn’t want, so I give you carte blanche. You have nothing to lose by trying…and the right amount of confidence in yourself goes a long way.
2. Create Sparks: Men. This is critical. You need to start the fire before you can enjoy the heat. What this means is that you need to touch her in a way that is appropriate in public, but will get her hankering for more. Some ideas that work on most women (but not all, so experiment!): At dinner, stroke her wrist gently as you wait for drinks. It’s a sensitive spot. Run your fingers down her back as you walk by Take her palm and gently kiss it. Play with her hair. And this is the most important part so pay attention: keep her guessing. Change it up, do different things, so that all of her attention will be on you and when you are going to touch her next.
3. Make her Shiver: Sweep her hair off of her neck and kiss the nape of her neck as you wait for drinks at the bar (why this works: it’s intimate, possessive, and also a very sensitive spot). Put your hands (firmly!) on her waist for a moment as you stand together and pull her into you (why this works: she feels secure and desired).
4. Dance with Her: Nothing says seduction like good music and a slow dance. Benefits of this move: you can turn the lights off and get closer…and closer.
5. Let Her Feel your Desire for Her. Men, this does not mean actually feeling your “desire.” It means letting her know how much you want to be with her/near her/around her — giving her your focus. Whether you do this with words, looks, both or with some sort of throwdown, it all works. Just make sure that she knows — she’ll find it incredibly attractive, and that will only help your cause in the end. [Note: Subtlety is important here too --there is nothing less sexy than a man that is openly salivating or lavishing worship on you when he hardly knows you. We prefer when that comes later!]
6. THROWDOWN. We secretly pretty much all want to feel like we are with a rugged man. And the best way to do this is to demonstrate some sort of throwdown. Whether it is picking her up in the tried and true threshold carry (we all like to feel light — tip: please don’t grunt), or slamming up against a wall as you kiss her (see point #5), it’s about her feeling how strong you are. THAT is sexy.
7. Whisper. Especially if you’re in public and it’s nearing closing time. If you haven’t done the deed yet, be careful about being raunchy here. But something as simple as “I can’t get my mind off those heels you’re wearing” will get her heart racing. Whispering it as a secret ramps up the seduction factor as does the physical closeness required to deliver the message.
This is years of wisdom from many women. Heed it. Recognize it. And APPLY IT. Whether you are working on a new girl or your wife of 10 years, every woman craves a little seduction and wants to feel like the object of desire and affection. Trust us — it WILL pay off for you in the end.
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