SingleGirl: Dating Games
Posted by SingleGirl - 15/03/10 at 08:03 amSo, Tall Drink is all about the date execution and date ideas. His theory (which I think is correct) is that women need to have surprises and periodic random fun events to keep them interested in a relationship, while men tend to settle in on the couch and enjoy routine. So he, wanting to keep a lady satisfied, has come up with a variety of crazy ideas and plans. Which in the beginning, was totally AWESOME. But then, after awhile, made me crave my couch and some down time with my man in front of the tv, crazy plans not invited. So I guess that makes me a stereo-typical woman…i.e., I like changing my mind!
And while I think he is totally right—my caveat is that men should think about is the quantity of plans before springing a ton of things on their lady friends. In one week he took us boating, for massages, to a rock concert, and then away for the weekend. I know, tiniest violin again, but it is a LOT of activity for this couch diva. I do have to spend quality time with my tivo after all!
So this has led to our first talk, because we found all these plans bred resentment. He resented the fact that he was planning most of our activities (I pointed out that with all of his plans I had no time to plan!), and I just wanted a break from plans, and more quiet time together…and a chance to catch up with my friends/tivo in what free time I had left. Which, if you told me a month ago I would have this conversation with a guy who is pretty darn perfect from the outside and tell me that I would be refusing awesome plans, I would have fallen over from shock. But here I am. Relationships, they are weird! (Maybe I’m weird?)
