SingleGirl: Winning Me Over
Posted by SingleGirl - 15/02/10 at 08:02 am
Ok, I will admit to this: Tall Drink is working very hard at winning me over and it is most definitely working. His strategy has been most impressive: First, shower me with thoughtful gifts, affection, and fun dates (chocolates, a plant for my balcony, champagne, new restaurants etc).
Second, subvert my friends. This has been far more devious on his part, but as my friends have come into town or met him at happy hours, he has been quick to solicit them for advice on my likes and dislikes, facebook friend them, and then stay in contact–thus building up his own connection with them. So clever, so devious, and it SO works! All of a sudden he has a huge fan base in my friends, as well as more insight into what I like and how I operate. I’m beginning to think his genius is evil!
Third: Tell me that he has stopped seeing other women, but that he won’t pressure me to stop seeing other men. We have a huge social custom of reciprocity here, and it is hard to cheerfully go check out other grassy fields when you’ve got a great guy making his commitment clear in your own back yard. It’s a fine balance however, because while awesome, it is also overwhelming and can cause panic. I admit, I’ve had said panic happen on my very own couch, but fortunately I’ve also had friends to talk me off the ledge and remind me about perspective. Everyone’s thoughts are that: “this is a great guy, why not see where this goes before you panic and run away by accident?” And that thought process makes a lot of sense to me. It also helps with the panic (though I know, tiniest violin for me because this guy is awesome) Anyone else? Bueller? Bueller?
